There is a misconception I hear often from women about boundaries. 

They are harsh. Cold. Will be interpreted as mean. 

When we see boundaries as this, we struggle to get behind them. 

We struggle to create them, uphold them, and feel safe with them. 

You are not cold. You are not mean. So how could boundaries make you that way?

I believe that boundaries are a gift you give to other people.

You are teaching others how to have a better relationship with you. 

How to have access to your energy in a way that will honor them AND you. 

Whether it be: your friend, your colleague, your romantic partner, your sister in-law, your client, a person you are dating 

When boundaries are crossed we feel, resentful, guarded, and may even want to avoid being around this person. 

Or we will feel uncomfortable & bend, say yes "just this one time" and feel resentful.

This can be very confusing when it’s somebody you care about. Or somebody you can’t avoid - a colleague. Or a friend. 

Boundaries command respect & are born from a woman trusting herself. 

Boundaries teach people how to be in relationship with you. 

Boundaries benefit YOU and the people in your life. 

Boundaries aren’t about:

• Saying the right thing so somebody will “get” it
• It comes down to teaching people in your life how to have a stronger relationship with you. 
• Strong women have boundaries.
• Super ambitious women have boundaries. 
• Busy women have boundaries.
• Boundaries strengthen relationships meant to grow & will weed out those who aren't here to respect you.